Before reading, just answer for this simple question.
Do you want to give bad habits to your children, and more money which will eventually be used to destroy your children?
OR
Do you want to give good habits to your children, and make them as good persons in the world?
If your answer is Yes for the first question, then you don’t need to read this. You can just go ahead and do your work.
Many people think that taking care of children is an ordinary task. But, it is the one of the most difficult tasks. It is very important to take care of many things for a woman, starting from the day she became pregnant, to make her child a good person.
The child gets the mental state of the mother when she was pregnant. Whatever a pregnant does, the child gets interest in the same thing. In the previous age, when the women become pregnant, they don’t do anything other than reading Mahabharata, Ramayana, Bhagavad-Gita etc. If they do that, then the child also gets the message of that. Nowadays, everyone is watching dirty movies, and serials. That’s why children are also getting dirty habits at very young age.
Prahlada maharaj learned about Lord Narayana when he was in the womb only. Narada taught to his mother, and he learned in the womb. He became one of the 12 authorities in the bhagavatham.
There are so many evidences for this in the scriptures.
Satyavathi:Satyavathi used to scull the boat on yamuna. One day, the great sage Parasara saw her and thought of giving a child to her, and she asked the sage that her child should become a great person. And parasara granted that, and her child became the greatest sage. That child compiled the four vedas, and composed Puranas, and Mahabharata. He is the great sage of all the time, Krishna Dwaipayana Vyasa (Veda Vyasa).
Ambika: When Ambika lost his husband without any child, her mother-in-law Satyavathi thought of having a grand child by her another son Veda Vyasa, and Ambika. But, Ambika refused that, and she ignored that there should be one child to rule the kingdom. She met Veda Vyasa reluctantly, and she closed her eyes completely. Because of that, she got a blind child, Dhritarashtra.
Ambalika:Ambalika was another daughter-in-law of Satyavathi. When she met with Vyasa, her face was paled. And she got a son, whose skin is paled. He is Pandu, the father of the Pandavas.
Servant of Ambika:Ambika got a blind son, because of her mistake when she met Vyasa. To get a good son, Satyavathi asked Ambika to meet Vyasa again. But, Ambika did not like that, and asked her servant to meet Vyasa. Her servant completely co-operated Vyasa to get a good son, and she got very good son. Her son became the one of the great devotees, and the great authority for the Dharma. He is Vidura, the incarnation of Yama Dharmaraj.
Kunti:When Kunti was in youth, Sage Durvasa came to her house and stayed there for one year. Kunti served him very well, and durvasa liked that, and gave one boon. That boon was, whenever kunti calls any god, he would come and give a son who is like himself. Kunti did not understand the greatness of boon, and she thought of testing the boon. She called the sun god, and when sun came, she told him that she had called just to test the boon. But, the boon should not go wasted. For that reason, sun gave a child to kunti, eventhough she does not like to have a child. She got a child who is considered as a bad person in the Mahabharat. Eventhough, he was not actually bad, he associated with bad people, and got a bad name. He is Karna.
From all the above examples, it is clearly understood that, mother decides the life of his son. It is extremely important to do every activity with very much consideration while one is pregnant, because, those 9 months mainly decide the future of the child. And even after giving birth, it is extremely important to take care of the child properly, at least up to the age of 15. A child does not know anything. They just repeat what they hear. If we don’t take care of children properly, then they will become bad. Even if we take care properly, still, they may become bad, once they enter the college. The only way to avoid this is to make them extra ordinarily good before the age of 15. Then only, they won’t be destroyed. Because, the world is so bad. If not at the age of 15, people will destroy him/her at the age of 20. At the age of 20, if they feel that those things are very bad, then only they don’t do it. Millions of people can tell “100 good reasons to smoke/drink” etc. For an ordinary person who is not that much inclined to spiritual, definitely falls. There are so many people who are ready to give drinks for the first 100 times for free. After that he becomes addicted, and will continue with his own money.
There are millions of things and ways in which a person can be trapped to bad things. Unless one is on the extreme side of good, he/she won’t be good for the whole life. This is an absolute truth for this kali yuga.
Everything should be completed before the age of 15. Otherwise, nothing would be in the control of any person. He/she would be controlled by the society. There is a saying that “the whole world is running with the speed of Light towards Hell”. The society became very bad in such a way that, if anyone does not drink or smoke, then he appears as a fool to many people. Many people ask him, “You studied in that big X institute. What did you learn there?”. If everyone moves towards hell with that much speed, then we have to take so much effort just to move with less speed towards hell, because everyone throws us towards that side. So, even if we don’t try to move, we also move towards hell with the same speed. If we don’t want to move towards hell, or even just to survive at the same place, we should have lot of energy.
If a child enters outside world (college) at the age of 15, without any energy, what would happen? He/she would be surely moved towards hell by others. There is no way to prevent that except giving very high energy before the age of 15. Giving high energy means, he/she must be advanced in spiritual knowledge.
Nowadays, most of the ladies are interested in doing jobs, but not taking care of children. If they don’t take care of their children, obviously, the children will get bad habits. It is more important to make them very good, than earning some money by thinking that their children would enjoy with that. But, if we give more money to enjoy to our children, and if they have bad habits, they would be destroyed soon. Money can be used in good ways, as well as bad ways. If we don’t make our children as good, they use that money to destroy themselves. If any husband asks her educated wife to just sit in the house, and take care of the children, then everyone will abuse him, that he is controlling his wife, and start revolutions that ladies are not considered as equal to men. But, they don’t consider about taking care of children, and making them as a good citizens of the society. They just see their fame and prestige in the society.
If you are the one who wants fame and prestige more than the growth of your children, and ready to spend more time to achieve that, then do not give birth to a child.
If there are two tasks, and two people, and if one person can do both, and another person can do only one, then the person who can do only one can get that task, and the other person has to do the other task. This happens in every company. If there is only one person who can do some task, then only that person gets that task, and (s)he has to do that. Women can do both job, and taking care of children. But, men cannot take care of children as women. Because of that, women are getting the work of taking care of children. Not because of that, they cannot do jobs. It is very difficult and great to make a great person, than just becoming great. Women have more challenges. But they think that they are getting zero challenging work like taking care of children, and not getting more challenging work like doing job. That is just foolishness. They are not at all considering the challenge in taking care of children. It is the one of the most difficult tasks.
All Mothers, think about one simple question with your commonsense.
If you were given opportunity to choose exactly one of the two choices, money, and good children, which one would you chose?
Hope to see a great person made by you.